He is Enough

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Isaiah 54:5 (ESV)

"For your Maker is your husband, the LORD of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called."

I felt God speaking to me about writing a blog post regarding His daughters. The Lord wants us (that are in our single season) to just be with Him. He loves us and believe it or not, also desires some of us to be married. But the season you are in, is just as special as if you were married. If not more.

It was Paul that spoke about singleness whether married or unwed...the scripture reads;

1 Corinthians 7 (MSG)

7 Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations?

2-6 Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.

7 Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.

But it was GOD who said in the beginning of Genesis 2:18 that, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for[a] him.”

At times, we question whether or not God wants us to be married especially if we have been single for a long period of time. Regardless of the timeframe, have you considered that God just wants us to himself? It is easy to think of the negative but let's think of it as a positive. For one, we know that a man in the physical can never truly satisfy us completely. There is a balance with everything and with marriage it is important to have that as well. Two, there is more work to do when you are married and you are literally responsible for another human being for the rest of your life (not including the children). See how waiting is not so bad? lol

Having God to myself has been extremely beneficial. I can say honestly, that I longed for marriage, love and romance, even "planned the weddings", and all things that go with it before. Eventually, I realized that if I didn't have the single season, I wouldn't have learned to love myself first before I could allow a man to love me. Definitely can say that I truly feel God's love and intention towards me also, which I find most fulfilling.

Being single is not a curse lol. With all the marriages breaking up and divorces on the rise in the church, it made me reflect on the beauty of being single, while also being able to pin point issues that may arise in a marriage. Being taught how to do self checks prior to getting into heated discussions or arguments that can simply be avoided with the Holy Spirit's direction AND correction.

Marriage is not for the faint of heart and truly isn't meant for everybody doing it. I just believe the time we are living in God is seeking out his loved ones to be near so that He can teach us what it means to be in Love with him first before he can send another. The desire is one He placed within us and it is important to lay it back down to him. Meaning, leaving it at his feet in prayer and not idolizing it or thinking about it all of the time, wondering when. Worrying. Just imagine if you do that now, what would happen then?

Stay Close,

Ebony